Can Affirmations Help at Work?

Monday morning rolls around a lot faster than we want it to when we leave work on Friday evening. So many workers dread facing the office (or restaurant, or retail store, etc.) at the beginning of each new work week.

What can you do if you would rather pull the covers over your head and pretend the world doesn’t exist? Can affirmations really help with work?

Yes, they can.

Start by answering a few questions about your relationship with your job. Be specific in your answers. Very specific. General answers won’t help you solve the problem.

• What do I dislike about my job?

• Why do I work?

• What is the worst that can happen at work today?

• Can I live with the worst case scenario?

• What do I like about my job?

• What do I want from my work?

Once you have your answers, use them to create affirmations. I’ll give you a few examples:

Q. What do I dislike about my job?

A. Having to get up at six a.m. to go to work.

Affirmation: Getting up early allows me to enjoy more of my day.

Q. Why do I work?

A. To make sure the mortgage is paid each month.

Affirmation: I am grateful that my job earns enough to provide a nice home to live in.

Get the picture?

Now try it for your own situation.

Of course, I’m not advocating staying with a job you utterly hate. Or in a hostile work situation. However, you can still use affirmations even in these circumstances.

Examples:

• I am moving into a better job.

• I am finding my dream job.

Do you have suggestions for job-related affirmations? How do you handle the mental blocks related to work? I look forward to your answers! Make sure to comment.

Affirmations and Poverty

Today is Blog Action Day. It is our day, as bloggers, to stand up publicly and help those less fortunate than ourselves.

Each day, millions of people in the United States and around the world struggle just to get through each day. I have been a single mother, feeding myself and two children for $25.00 a week. Ten years ago, that wasn’t as difficult as it would be today. I had the benefit of a family support network who would help out if things became too lean. Or, I would be hungry so my children could eat. It was my goal that they never do without.

What about the hard-working mothers and fathers who are doing their best, but can’t quite reach even that small goal? What can we do for the families who want better for their children, but struggle just to put food on the table?

There are a wide number of worthy charities to which you can donate. It doesn’t have to be money. It can be time. Cooking, serving, teaching, or creating in order to help those less fortunate get on their feet.

How do affirmations tie into this? Use them to counteract the negative of poverty. Affirm those less fortunate (while actively helping them). Tell them that they are valuable. That they do matter. That they are not losers or lazy or bad in any way. Let them know that they can reclaim their self-respect. It is simple to do this.

While you are working with or helping someone, look them in the eye. Shake their hand with firmness and respect. Treat them like a friend. Become a friend. Encourage their dreams. Open your doors to them – physically and mentally. Help them make those connections that can change lives. It might be as simple as introducing them to someone you know. Or giving them the right book to read. Any positive action counteracts the negative strains of poverty.

Helping families get out of poverty is our responsibility. Not the government’s. Let’s do what we can, today and every day, to break this devastating cycle.

Affirmations for Two

Relationships are a lot of work. We all know this, especially if we are in one. Some days, you look at your significant other and wonder, “what was I thinking?” Other days, they walk on water, so to speak.

Keeping the relationship strong is a two-person job. And you can use affirmations together to further strengthen your bond.

First, make sure your partner wants to participate. Not everyone is comfortable using affirmations in front of others. That’s okay. There is another way (I’ll discuss it in a minute). If your partner is willing, the next step is -

Love one another

Choose an affirmation to use. Remember to keep them positive, present and simple.

Samples:

I love you. (When sincere, this is one of the most

powerful affirmations

couples can use.)

You are special.

We belong together.

We are a team.

After you’ve chosen an affirmation to use, you can use it in a number of ways.

1. Sit together, facing one another. Look each other in the eye and repeat the affirmation back and forth to one another with feeling.

2. Say the affirmation to one another as you enter or leave each other’s company throughout the day. Even if you are walking out of one room to another, stop, look at your partner, and repeat the affirmation.

3. When you are being intimate, this is also a good time for eye contact and to share the affirmation you’ve chosen.

Over time, you may develop signals or other “inside” gestures to share the affirmation without saying it. A quick squeeze of your partner’s hand can say, “I believe in you.” A kiss on the ch

eek can say, “I love you.” Each of these builds intimacy and strengthens the core of your relationship.

It won’t make problems go away, but it will serve to remind you why you bother to work on those problems in the first place. A strong affirmation between partners will also reaffirm

to each of you why you are together in the first place. You will begin to see your partner in a less critical light, recalling all of the little things that made you fall in love.

As I promised, there is a way for couples to

share affirmations, even if the exercises above are more than they are ready for. All the person has to do is mentally repeat the affirmation each time they look at their partner. This can be used together with a physical gesture to reiterate that commitment. Over time, confidence and intimacy may make the partner willing to share in one of the above methods for reaffirming your relationship.

Remember, this is about strengthening your bond and sharing your love. Keep it simple and don’t force it. Let your partner do what is most comfortable to begin with. And -

Affirm your relationship!

Welcome to Our New Home

Affirm Each Day is pleased to be moving here to WordPress. We are in the process of moving all of the posts from our original platform. Comments are welcome.

Enjoy the new digs. I look forward to being around for a long time.

A Way Out of Depression

Have you ever been depressed? I’m not even talking about a psychological diagnosis, necessarily. Have you had days where you couldn’t get going? It seemed like you were a hamster on a wheel. Running and running and getting nowhere?

We’ve all felt that way at one time or another. Some of us struggle with more serious forms of depression, including clinical depression. Not fun.

When the blahs attack, what can we do?

We can affirm brighter days.

What do I mean by that?

I mean that you can create and use affirmations to take the edge off of the blues. To help the sun peek through the clouds of your emotional atmosphere.

You can get off the hamster wheel.

How?

Figure out what would make your day feel brighter, better. Would it be a nap? Or seeing an old friend? Keep it simple. Make it something small. All it takes is one little ray of sunshine to light the dark places.

Once you figure out what would make you feel better, affirm it.

• “I am taking a therapeutic nap today.”
• “I am seeing my friend at lunch.”
• “My child’s smile brightens my day.”
• “A cup of tea and a good book make me happy.”

Use these affirmations exactly the way you would use any other affirmation. Repetition, repetition, repetition. Focus your mind on the ray of sunshine. Before you know it, the clouds will disburse and you will feel better.

Of course, if you suffer from a chemical imbalance or other medical condition that causes your depression, you will also need to see a doctor. There is no shame in treating what ails you.

If you are having self-destructive thoughts and feelings, please contact someone who can help. Your life has great value and you should be here to live it.

How to Build Motivation

Up to now, I’ve talked about affirmations to deal with emotional issues. I’ve also touched on it to help with physical fitness and raising children. Still, there is one area where affirmations can be the difference between success and failure.

Motivation.

Have you ever started a project just to lose interest halfway through? Did working on it become a hassle? Something you tried to avoid?

Don’t worry, it happens to all of us.

My grandmother used to get on my case all the time for starting things and never finishing them. Unfortunately, this became a self-fulfilling prophecy for a long time. Right out of the gate, I’m enthusiastic and work hard. Over time, however, my enthusiasm wanes. The hardness of the work sets in. And I quit.

Or at least, I used to.

Then I stumbled on a secret.

I learned that I could use affirmations to get and stay motivated.

No, not the frantic, excited motivation that comes with starting a new project. More like a steady low hum of motivation. A sense of looking forward to the next part of the task. I’ve applied this to writing. To my day job. To housework, even. It’s effectiveness with housework is debatable.

How can you get motivated with affirmations?

Easy. Create and use a strong motivation statement. Make it specific and positive. It should give you a mental kick in the pants.

“I enjoy writing each day because my readers need to know what I have to say.”

Not only does this motivate me to write, it also keeps me focused on why I write. That is often all the motivation I need.

What is it you need to do? State it as specifically and in as few words as possible. Do you need to clean the kitchen? Do you need to write that expense report? Whatever it is, write it down.

Why are you doing this project? If you are cleaning the kitchen, maybe it is so you and your significant other can have a romantic meal in there later. Or it could simply be that you want to keep the bugs out. That expense report might be the difference between a full paycheck and half a paycheck.

In both of the cases above, a simple motivational affirmation can help:

• “I keep the kitchen clean to keep bugs out of my house.”
• “The kitchen is more romantic when it’s clean.”

• “This expense report is impressing my boss.”
• “I am being reimbursed for all of my expenses because of this report.”

You can even be somewhat silly, and it will work. The use of humor with affirmations boosts their effectiveness.

For example: “Cleaning kitchens is sexy.” “Expense reports rule.”

Granted, these statements are ridiculous. But if they work, that’s all that matters.

Affirm your project today!

Get Fit Affirmations

In the U.S., we hear a lot about the problem of obesity. In ourselves, in our children. We all want to take good care of our bodies. It’s not always easy.

Can affirmations help?

Yes, they can. You can use affirmations in a couple of ways to get and stay fit.

You can use them to motivate you.

Examples:

• I love exercise.
• I enjoy feeling healthy.
• I am stronger each day.
• It’s a beautiful day for a jog.

Motivation is an important part of getting healthy, especially at the beginning, when it feels like a huge task to get out of bed and pull on the workout clothes. Use these affirmations or ones you create yourself to make it easier. To learn to look forward to this time you spend caring for yourself.

You can also use affirmations to focus on your goals.

Examples:

• I am running two miles today.
• I fit in that size 10 dress for the party.
• I qualify for the volunteer fire department.
• I am attractive to myself and others.
• I find great dates with ease.

Whatever your fitness goals, you can focus in on them using your affirmations. Some of us have set weights or clothing sizes we want to reach. Others have goals related to work or other activities they want to feel comfortable doing. It doesn’t matter which one is you, as long as you take care of you.

Affirm your fitness today!

Affirm Your Relationships

Because affirmations are so versatile, you can apply them to any area of your life and see improvement. This includes relationships.

Let me tell you my story.

I got divorced at the end of 1997, beginning of 1998. It left my self-image battered and broken. I didn’t believe I would ever find someone who would take on a woman with two school-aged children. It seemed hopeless.A number of months later, I entered into a relationship with a man who was loving and wonderful. But he feared commitment. He wanted a perpetual girlfriend. He also had a knack for being around mostly when the children were not. Having children, I couldn’t settle for that. It didn’t feel right.

During this time, I began affirming the right person for my life. Simply repeating to myself that I have a strong marriage to the right man. When I began doing this, I was hoping it was the man I was dating. That didn’t work out. What we think we want is not always what is right for us.

Instead, I found someone completely new. Paul and I married in 2000. Our life together has gotten better each and every year.

So, how can this apply to you?

Do you have a relationship you would like to see deepen? Would you like to bring a new relationship into your life?

Remember, it doesn’t have to be a romantic relationship. This can apply to friendships, relations with your parents, children or siblings, or even with yourself. I am using my own situation as an example.

Determine what you would like to change. Keep in mind that you cannot change another person with affirmations, only yourself or your view of that person.

Once you’ve determined what you want to change, create an affirmation that addresses this.

When you have the affirmation the way you want it, begin putting it to use.

Some of you will see more immediate results than others. Whatever you do, don’t give up.

Affirm your relationships today.

Getting Started with Affirmations

I’ve posted a lot on here about specific ways to use affirmations. But what about the person just getting started? Someone who has never used affirmations before, at least consciously? That’s what this post is all about.

What is an affirmation?

An affirmation is simply a positive statement that something is true. “I am awake,” is an affirmation.

Why use affirmations?

Affirmations help us change how we talk to ourselves. What negative voices are chattering in your head? Don’t you think it’s time to give them the boot and hang out mentally with voices that want you to succeed, be healthy and enjoy life? Affirmations do just that. They replace the negative with positive.

You see, you can’t just get rid of the negative. Then you leave a void. Nature will seek to fill it. If you don’t take control of that re-filling process, you will end up with more of the same. Or those old voices will simply move back home.

Many of us don’t realize the horrible things we say to ourselves all day long. Each repetition reinforces the idea that those words are true.

“I’m so clumsy.” That is one I still struggle with every time I drop something. Fact is, I am not that clumsy. But if I keep telling myself that I am, I will gradually become what I believe myself to be.

So, spend some time today paying attention to your internal dialogue. Write down these statements. After doing so, write an affirmation to replace each one.

For example:
Negative statement – I am clumsy.
Replacement affirmations – I am graceful. I am surefooted.

Then, each time you hear that negative voice, mentally yell “STOP!” and say the positive replacement statement instead. Over time, those negative voices will become quiet and your view of the world will become a happier, healthier one.

Are Affirmations Against Your Religion?

I had an interesting conversation with someone yesterday about this blog. This woman is someone I consider a friend, albeit not a close one. She is a devout Christian, though I will not disclose her church affiliation because this is not the point.

She told me that in her opinion, affirmations were against her religion. She seems to think they are a new age concept, therefore, dangerous to her salvation.

Regardless of my belief system or hers, I decided to do a little investigating. Doing so was easy because I had recently been listening to The Power of Positive Thinking audio book. Dr. Norman Vincent Peale advocates the use of affirmations – from the Christian Bible!

For example:
“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
“This is the day the Lord hath made, I will rejoice and be glad in it.”

Of course, I don’t want to debate theology. Again, not the point of this post. I just want to encourage everyone who fears affirmations are against their faith to turn to their holy books and find the positive statements there that can edify them.

In the Christian faith, scripture memorization is considered a great thing. How do we commit something to memory? We repeat it. Over and over. Sounds like affirming to me. What do you think?

Affirming something is simply stating it as if it were already true. If you believe the Bible is true, affirm this. If you believe something else, affirm it.

Am I completely off track here? Please do not turn this into a theology debate. Flamers and trolls will have their posts deleted. As will anyone who launches a personal attack on another commenter. So please offer considered, thoughtful answers to my question. I’m interested to see where this goes.